Sex

In the incredibly oversaturated world that we in today, everybody is aware of the well-known fact that 'sex sells'. No matter how many people try to protest it and speak out about it as not being "right", the truth is we all feed into it. For example, Beyonce being considered the ultimate sex symobol. Now compare Beyonce to someone such as Reese Witherspoon. Reese, in my opinion is gorgeous, but in a sweetheart, cute, girly kind of way. And on the other hand, Beyonce has the curves that make the men drool, the diva attitude. I believe that only a selective and limited few posses the power to totally exude physical sex appeal as well through their state of mind.

So my boys and I came from seeing Transformers (awesome film by the way), and as we were walking, these girls with obvious sex appeal approached my homeboy.

So my boys were literally staring at these girls, practically drooling all over themselves, and that's when I snapped out of the trance. Something much greater than my eyes shifted my perception and thus my occipital lobes also made the adjustment and I then turned my head to look away followed by my body. I didn't want to look at them because my attractive to their "sex appeal" changed. Why so?

So there are two ways of managing perception. I like to use the firefighter example. Fire is hot and can kill us. Most of our fight or flight instincts would see the fire, run from it, or be trapped by the fear of flames. Just like my homeboys and those girls, we react with the fight (let's talk to/mack/sleep with them) or we flight (let's run/ignore/avoid) them. These are our two primal responses, I argue. Like the firefighter, we have two more options or perspectives. We can act as if the woman isn't there, which is unlike flight in the sense that you are still engaging with a woman, but her effects on you are diminished. So the firefighter engages the fire, but his or her sensory motors are self-dampened. Men tend to do that just as in the example above about having a female as a superior officer or colleague. A man may walk into an environment wherein there may be women he would be naturally have an attraction towards, but if he bushes the right buttons on his brain, the effects of his attraction can neutralized, but that would also involved temporarily shutting off many of his senses, or at least dulling them, so like the firefighter, his skin may make contact with flames, he may choose to cut off certain sensations.

As mentioned, there is also a fourth option. A firefighter that ventures into a building in flames, if they have dampened their senses, may not be proactive in their search for solutions. I believe that there are certain parts of our brains that are also dampened when we cut ourselves off from our senses, it's the ability to see the fire as it is and yet still engage the fire as if one is going through the fire or around the fire, above, or below it.

A man might be in an environment wherein he is approached by women he finds attractive, but instead of cutting off his senses, he may choose to "manage" his senses so that they don't experience an overload and wrongful judgments are made to satisfy sensory tastes. Metaphorically, that man becomes stronger than his eyes. He doesn't choose to stare at certain aspects or analyze deeply with them, or he chooses not too look away. Instead of choosing to act as if he is blind, he sees the full picture and thus his perception becomes aware of the object as he knows the object is aware of him, but isn't consumed by the object or lost in his awareness.

Okay, most of the stuff I just wrote about is highly metaphorical and speculative, but it does shed light to what a man considers sex appeal and what hold sex appeal can have on them depending on how that a person perceives that sex appeal. Using a dialectic approach, I can close this blog posting confidently.

Sex appeal is great, but I speak on behalf of a caliber of men who also "want more" than just what the eye tricks them to just see. We want the girls we can make family homes movies with. For many of us, using a different perception of sex appeal, while other men want to buy the movie, we'd rather rent the dvd.

I'm much stronger than my eyes.

On the lighter side of things..

10 TRUTHS BLACK AND HISPANIC PEOPLE KNOW, BUT WHITE PEOPLE WON'T ADMIT:

1. Elvis is dead.
2. Jesus was not White.
3. Rap music is here to stay
4. Kissing your pet is not cute or clean.
5. Skinny does not equal sexy.
6. Thomas Jefferson had black children.
7. A 5 year child is too big for a stroller.
8. N' SYNC will never hold a candle to the Jackson 5
9. An occasional BUTT whooping helps a child stay in line.
10. Having your children curse you out in public is not normal.

10 TRUTHS WHITE AND BLACK PEOPLE KNOW, BUT HISPANIC PEOPLE WON'T ADMIT:

1. Hickey's are not attractive.
2. Chicken is food, not a roommate.
3. Jesus is not a name for your son.
4. Your country's flag is not a car decoration.
5. Maria is a name but not for every other daughter.
6. "Jump out and run" is not in any insurance policies.
7. 10 people to a car is considered too many.
8. Buttoning just the top button of your shirt is a bad fashion statement.
9. Mami and Papi can't possibly be the nickname of every person in your
family
10.Letting your children run wildly through the store is not normal.

10 TRUTHS WHITE AND HISPANIC PEOPLE KNOW, BUT BLACK PEOPLE WON'T ADMIT:

1. O. J. did it.
2. Tupac is dead.
3. Teeth should not be decorated.
4. Weddings should start on time.
5. Your pastor doesn't know everything.
6. Jesse Jackson will never be President.
7. RED is not a kool-aid flavor, it's a color.
8. Church does not require expensive clothes.
9. Crown Royal bags are meant to be thrown away.
10.Your rims and sound system should not be worth more than your car.